Battle of the sexes

Ask any man and he will tell you that women are complicated, difficult to understand and quite the drama queens.

On the flipside, women believe that the ‘macho’ image is a farce, most men are impossible and in reality just big babies who want to be coddled throughout life.

As a woman and I speak on behalf of my tribe out there, we women are really not complicated.

We are simply emotional, more intuitive, we sense things more and we are care-givers. This does not mean that men are not emotional, they most certainly are, but don’t voice it like we do.

We are also more organized and multi-task effectively. I admit that we sometimes over think things and over analyze words or comments that are sometimes interpreted completely different to what was originally implied.

That can create complications, which men find hard to handle

As for being ‘drama queens’, did it ever occur to men, that you made us so?

We are tired of picking up after you and cleaning the mess you create. How many of you, appreciate the cooked meals and at least pick up your own plate after meals and help tidy up.

Try asking a man for help, most of them will simply belch in response.

If that is not enough, you men are worse than babies, when you get sick.

We have to walk around on tiptoes and keep the kids quiet, so that you are not disturbed. You only wake up in time for a steaming bowl of chicken soup, complain about a total lack of appetite, but still slurp down the last drop and simply go back to bed.

You want constant pampering and taking care of and while we did promise to be there ‘in sickness and in health’ you sometimes take it a bit too far! 

We, on the other hand, can’t afford the luxury of being sick, because it will throw everything out of sync. While we would like to be able to sit back and relax, but like they say, a woman’s work is never done.

So we ignore the aches and pains, go about our routine with no time to complain.

Then again, is it expecting too much to want your attention? Do you realise that we would like to be pampered, be able to voice our feelings too, without you disregarding what we say, because you only tune into those things that matter most to you and filter out the rest.

It is frustrating trying to talk to you, over the sound of the TV, which you refuse to turn off because it is either “give me a minute,” or ‘can we talk later.” It’s a miracle if we can get five minutes of undivided attention.

Any wonder then, why we are the so called drama queens.

Just remember, that while society regards you as the head of the family and you may boast to your friends about being the king of your castle who always has the last word on any decisions, who are you kidding? 

That was considered the norm during the time of your forefathers. This is the 21^st century and times have changed. The majority of women refuse to be the submissive wives and mothers that their grandmothers were.

 We can be kind, loving and very patient, we advocate peace and harmony, but if you push our buttons the wrong way and we snap, you really won’t know what hit you. Is it worth being relegated to the dog house?

Life is all about adjustments and co-existing amicably, so let’s work towards that. Let’s stop the blame game and arguments – you know you can’t win anyway, because a woman will always have the last word.