Enough is Enough

If makes me livid when I hear about  domestic abuse. Worse still, when it pertains to women I know on a personal level.


How downright atrocious for any woman to be subject to such cruelty, which only highlights the cowardice of a man, who is attacking someone  obviously not as strong as him.


Strength is not just about physical strength. A woman may be physically stronger than the man, but how strong is she financially or emotionally, to walk away from the abuse and live life on her terms?


For most women and especially if they are mothers, they continue to take the abuse, for financial security and to maintain a family environment, for the sake of the children.


Yet, what kind of family environment are we talking about, where there is no love, or respect for one another? In fact, aren't we jeopardizing the children's future by continuing to live in such an abusive, negative environment? Won't it have a negative impact on the their future relationships with others?


What kind of message are we giving our children, that it is acceptable to be abused, when we all know that it is not? 


Do we want to risk continuing a vicious circle of abuse? I doubt it.


So while abuse happens, day in and day out, away from prying eyes and amid the walls of many a home - physical, mental, verbal and overall emotional abuse, it really has to stop.



But it can't stop if you as an abused person, continue to let it dictate your life. 


It can't stop, if you stay submissive and don't do anything about it. 



Call available Helplines, talk to family and friends you can trust, for support and sometimes, in severe cases, seek help from the law if you have to.


Fear is what holds people back from taking action, but sometimes you have to push yourself forward, push through the shackles of fear that bind you and fight for your rights.


To all you women out there, you have a right to live and be treated, if not with love, at least with respect. No one, no one has the right to abuse you. 


You are just as much to blame as the abuser, if you stay silent.


Stand up, stand tall, remind yourself of your self-worth.


Whether you are a wife or mother or both, you are first and foremost, a woman - a woman of substance.